In my Mine the Past post, I introduced the first of the five-chapter process for living your best chapter. Mining the Past is where you uncover those golden nuggets to help you build a sturdy, stable bridge from the past to the present and into the future. And that brings us to the second step - Assessing Current Reality (AKA the present).
The path that led me to coaching started with the work of Robert Fritz and his program and book called Technologies for Creating. What I learned from Fritz is that we create a tension when we get real clarity between our starting point and our desired outcome. It’s as though we’ve stretched a cosmic rubber band between point A and point B. Fritz believed, and I have experienced in my own life and with my clients, that while vision is important, this vision gets refined as we move closer to it. The closer we get, the more our vision comes into focus… but current reality, where we are in relation to the vision, is the most critical factor for crafting an accurate course.
Assessment of Your Current Reality
Here are some of the important aspects to evaluate in terms of your life as it is right now in this moment:
1) Take the opportunity to do a fearless assessment of this transition itself.
2) Conduct a fearless inventory, including:
What Trusted Others Think About Your Current Reality
I wonder if you, like me, sometimes find it hard to see your own reality accurately. I love the quote, “I’m not sure what fish talk about but I’m pretty sure it’s not water.” It’s a good idea to double-check your own perceptions at each chapter of this journey and solicit the perceptions of others who know you well and whom you trust.
Here are some good questions to ask:
Each chapter of this journey is an essential step in moving toward living your best chapter. In order to move to the next chapter and third step, Charting the Course, it is necessary to know exactly where you are now on the journey. Having a trusted guide, coach, mentor, or friend can give you a much-needed reality check at this critical juncture.
Moving through this chapter of your transition may take longer than expected for many reasons because it is definitely not a linear process. In many ways it’s like doing a labyrinth walk, which is designed not to get you lost, like a maze, but to help you get to your center as you get to it’s center. There will be twists and turns along the way, but if you just follow the path and keep going, even when it feels like you are backtracking, you won’t get lost. You will eventually find your way to the center, which symbolizes the end of the past and the beginning of the future. The structure of the labyrinth slows you down so that you are forced to reflect. The one pictured here has stone seats in the center to encourage you to pause and contemplate what you are leaving behind, where you are now, and where you want to go.
Stay tuned for the next chapter, “Charting the Course,” the third in this series of the Five Chapters that lead you to making your next chapter your best chapter.
If you or someone you know is in the process of a major life transition (or contemplating one), I would welcome the opportunity to offer support and wisdom. If you are interested in having a no-pressure conversation with Rebecca to learn more, please click HERE.
Rebecca Bradley is a Master Certified ICF Coach and founder of Partnership Coaching, Inc. She began coaching individuals and teams to be successful in business over thirty-two years ago.