This post is the fifth of a five-part series to give you a preview of the five chapters for leaving the world of work and creating a new life of meaning and purpose. Perhaps this brief overview will help you along the way if you are considering shaking things up in your current situation and moving to a future you may not see right now. 

In chapter one, Mine the Past, we explored the process of stopping the action and taking stock of where you have been, what you want/need to leave behind, especially as it relates to your definition of success, the identity that enabled that success, and beliefs and mental models about what has meaning and purpose for you.

In chapter two, Assess Current Reality, we showed how to take took a hard look at current reality so that you have an accurate starting point for your journey. This includes an honest assessment of where you are currently. How well are you navigating this transition (with input from trusted observers)? How would you rate your health and wellbeing, relationships, and activities that enliven you? What is your current life purpose and how does it need to change? Are your values serving you or do they need to be refined?

In chapter 3, Chart the Course, you’ve done the groundwork, but this can be the messy middle part of the journey, fraught with hesitation, procrastination, and refusal to let go. Knowing how to navigate this tricky part and how to begin the process of mapping out your vision for your future and the supporting goals to get there can take time. This chapter takes courage and faith and is a necessary, if sometimes uncomfortable part of the process.

In chapter 4, Neutralize the Barriers, we discussed the internal the obstacles encountered as we move from the messy middle to having a clearly charted course and into your new beginning. This post highlights the advances in neuroscience that enable us to learn to rewire our brains so that we can move into new ways of being and behaving.

Imagine you have worked hard to navigate these four chapters and next is...

                     “Structure drives behavior.”                        
- Robert Fritz

The banks of this river provide the structure within which it flows, even when it is a meandering route. Unless the banks are re-engineered, the energy of the flowing water will forever follow the existing path—and so will we! The key is to have structures whose path of least resistance is taking you where you want to go—to your desired future.

Here are some examples of structures you might use to keep you on course:

• Going to the gym or taking daily walks with a workout buddy who shares a mutual commitment.
• Develop a routine that takes into consideration the science behind forming desired new habits. James Clear’s book, Atomic Habits, is an excellent resource for this.
• Join organizations or groups whose missions you are passionate about and commit to scheduled, regular participation.
• Plan each week out on Sunday and calendar a fun, interesting, or meaningful activity each day, with others you enjoy, if possible. (Isolation may derail you, even if you are an introvert!).
• Journal about what’s working well for you and what’s not working less well and take action to find more “well’s” and eliminate the “less well’s.”
• Talk to a friend, mentor, or coach about what is keeping you stuck. Don’t try to go it alone!! 

​And before you know it, like my former client Susan, you will find yourself wondering why you waited so long. You will be at peace without your previous status, achievements, and accolades. Like Susan, you will meet new people (or even old friends) and never even mention your previous life. You will have too many exciting things you are learning and experiencing to share to revisit the past. You will hold your next chapter, your best chapter, in the palm of your hands. 
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This article is the fifth in a series describing the process of a successful transition. If you are in the last third of your life and thinking about ending your current career or selling your successful business, but not sure what you’re going to do or how you’re going to do it, this series will guide your thinking and perhaps give you your best next step/s. If you have been reading the 4 previous posts in this series you have had a brief overview of the 5 Chapters for making your next chapter your best chapter and learned how to let go of the past, see the present clearly, and chart a course for the future. You may read the previous four posts HERE if you missed them and would like to start at the beginning.
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​In this chapter we will explore ways to neutralize the inevitable blocks and barriers that are bound to arise as you make this significant shift.

*If you have an impatient clicking finger, please do read down to Chapter Four. That’s where the magic happens!!

If you haven’t heard from me in a while, it’s because I have been having a blast helping clients who are in major transitions go from where they are to where they would rather be. Some are retiring and others are hitting the pause button to shape-shift into a new career/role. In both cases we are co-creating a plan and process for them to make their next chapter their best chapter.

1  |  Remember Who You Are: 
You were born for this moment. Leadership is hard—but you can do hard. You’ve been through challenging times before and you’ve always come out stronger on the other side.

• What is the core strength that got me through other tough times?
• Write that strength on 4 sticky notes and post them in places to remind you who you are.

2  |  Put Your Own Oxygen Mask on First: 
If you don’t take care of yourself, who will? Remember that you have the choice to be your own best friend or your own worst enemy every day. Do the basic things that keep you healthy and sane: drink plenty of water, eat healthy, exercise, sleep. Repeat.

• How can I be my own best friend today?
• Choose one thing to do today that is caring for yourself and your wellbeing and do it, starting with number 3 below.

      
3  |  Center Yourself When You Are Afraid or Anxious:
Fear is a natural response to continued uncertainty, chaos, and a sense of being out of control. The best thing you can do to center yourself is to take 5 slow deep breaths in this rhythm: inhale to the count of 3, pause to the count of 3, then do a complete, forceful exhalation to the count of 6. Done regularly (hourly) this breathing exercise will literally change your body chemistry and begin to build your immune response.

• What is the least expensive, least time consuming act of radical self-care I can do?
• Take 5 deep breaths at least 5 times a day!

4  |  Make Gratitude a Practice:
Start every morning with gratitude. Don’t allow yourself to get out of bed until you have thought of one thing you’re grateful for. Before you go to sleep at night, think of 3 things that happened today that you are grateful for. If you can, think of different things so it doesn’t get boring. This simple little exercise has the power to change how you go through your day and settle you down for peaceful, relaxed, and much-needed sleep at night.

• Would I rather be in fear/irritation/frustration (fill in the blank) today or operate from gratitude?
• Email, call, or text someone and thank them for something you appreciate that they did or said.

5  |  When You’re Uncertain About the Future: Our world has been so topsy turvy and no “new normal” in sight, it’s easy to get in a tailspin worrying about the what if’s. When we live in worry, we are cheating ourselves out of mental clarity, presence, and above all, joy. Worry not only undermines our resilience, but our immune response as well.

• What is one thing within my control that can give me certainty today—even if it’s tiny?
•  a) Write down 5 accomplishments you’ve had in the past 5 days. b) Write down one thing you feel confident you can accomplish right now,.. I know I can call 1 client and ask for a referral…that I can work out before going to work.

6  |  Prevent Overwhelm by Creating Routine:
When you’re feeling overwhelmed it helps to simplify your life. The more choices and decisions you have to make, the messier it feels.

• What can you I do to reduce the number of decisions I have to make?
• Establish a morning routine. Morning Routine: Gratitude practice, take 5 deep breaths , meditate, move your body, prioritize your to do list…

7  |  Think, don’t Act:
When things feel frantic, it’s even more important to focus on the horizon. Take 5 deep breaths. Connect with your values, your vision, your purpose. And only then take action.

• What are my top 5 values? What is my 3 year vision? What is my real purpose in life…  
• Write/type your top 5 Values and your 3 year Vision down and make 2 copies. Put one on your desk and one on your nightstand to help you to remember to live your values every day and to give you a long term vision to focus on.

8  |  Indecision is Making a Decision:
There’s always less stress on the other side of a decision. Not deciding is probably costing you more anguish than making a decision you fear. So make a decision!

• What’s one thing I’m procrastinating on, or that I want to do but am afraid to?
• Use the 10/10/10 (created by Suzy Welch) for tough decisions. For each of your choices, imagine you just took action. Then write down how you would feel about each decision—in 10 minutes, in 10 months, and in 10 years. Make the decision. Then take one baby step…

9  |  Limit Input Toxicity:
The news is literally designed to scare you—because you keep watching and they get paid. And your email inbox is other people’s To Do list. Limit your media intake to once a day and check email only at 4 intervals during the day. Save the rest of your time for consuming healthy input and improving your healthy output.

• What advice would I give my best friend if I felt they were increasing their stress through toxic media overload?
• Take your own advice. Make a declaration to close friends and family and ask them to be your accountability partners.

10  |  Take the Long View:
​This too shall pass. We all have to work on present challenges, and yet it’s wise to begin to plan ahead. There’s always a new normal after a crisis. Begin to plan ahead for exceptional client service.
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• What I you create now, so that I am ready to support my existing clients and to create new clients, once the crisis is over?
• Write down one idea that your clients will absolutely love in 6-12 months.